Q. What prompted you to write this book?
A. I have been with an agent for the rights of some other books. He had suggested that I write my own story as there was a lack of reference point for young queer people who are dealing with their own identity. I was not too convinced though. After his persuasion for three-four years followed by my sister's similar suggestion during the pandemic, I had started writing my own story.
Book cover of Onir Dhar's 'I Am Onir and I Am Gay' (L) and Onir at Kolkata Literary Fest (R) | Image Credit: Avishek Mitra/IBNS
Q. Did you have any conversation with young queer people after the book was published?
A. After the book was published, I kept on getting constant messages on social media. There are many people, who are from the smaller towns and do not want to publicly say that they had read the book, had inboxed to thank me. Many had asked me for soft copies as they hesitated to buy the book to conceal their identity. I think that's the sign of the development of a conversation.
Q. So do you mean your book has touched queer people in the interior areas where people are more hesitant to reveal their identity?
A. I feel that's the case. I hope someone will translate the book in different regional languages. It would be nice to get the book translated for a wider reach.
Q. Has the situation for queer people changed in reality even after the Supreme Court verdict?
A. The fact that police couldn't guarantee my protection at the Bhopal Literary Fest is itself a sign that we have a long way to go where our community is treated as equals and we are safe. The violence against the trans community, for instance, is huge across the country as the more we claim our space, the more we face resistance. I feel the resistance and violence the LGTBQ community faces across religion, race and culture is the same as that of the women and minority, who are also claiming their respective spaces.
Onir at Kolkata Literary Fest | Image Credit: Avishek Mitra/IBNS
Q. Your flight to Bhopal for the Lit Fest was cancelled at the last moment. We are witnessing controversy over Pathaan for which you have also spoken out. What do these incidents in the country mean to you?
A. I was quite sad because I spoke up for Pathaan and various other issues concerning the film industry but no one in the business commented on my incident, which is not even political or religious. This reflects fear. But more than anything, I am disappointed. Inbox messages of sympathy means nothing to me. If it can't stand up with me out in the open, it doesn't mean to me.
(Images by Avishek Mitra/IBNS)